How To Stop Arguing With Your Girlfriend

Arguing too often is actually a symptom of deeper 

problems in the relationship.  It usually comes from a lack of 

attraction and flexibility.



               Here's a short list of things you can do to avoid

fighting with your girlfriend:





1)             Don't raise your voice or try to "out-do" your partner. 

               If you try to cut off a person or speak over the person 

               by raising your voice, guess what the person is going 

               to do? The same thing! And guess what that will lead to? 

               A quarrel!



2)             Don't use labels or call your partner names. The person 

               will feel defensive and fight back.



3)             Raise the attraction and THEN have a calm discussion on 

               how to compromise.



4)             Compare the character of your partner with your own 

               character. See if you're really compatible.



5)             Don't turn the relationship into a trench war. It's not 

               about keeping score or winning every argument. Understand

               that you do NOT have to win every argument!



6)             Don't blame your partner for everything. If you put all 

               the blame on the other person, guess what the other 

               person is going to do? That's right. Act defensive and 

               blame you back.



7)             Control your jealousy. If your girlfriend sleeps around,

               it's time to leave her. (Don't bother to argue about it.)

               But if she's just talking to other guys casually, then

               just make it clear that you won't tolerate any cheating

               and then leave it at that. Don't spy on her or act 

               jealous all the time.



8)             Make sure you have the right woman. Avoid over-dramatic

               women with a lot of baggage. (I would argue every day too

               if I were dating a crack addict with a drug dealer

               ex-boyfriend!)



9)             Start Listening. Learn to listen to each other. Pay

               attention to each other. Spend some time just talking 

               to each other every week.



10)           Raise the attraction. This one is the most important tip.

               The higher the attraction and chemistry is in a

               relationship, the less likely you will get into a fight

               with your mate and break up.